Plano Get Together – February 11th

January 23rd, 2011  / Author: TexasHeat

We’re having our second official get together at Razzoo’s Cajun Café in Plano on the North Dallas Tollway Friday, February 11th at 8:30. Just like our first get together – it’s for gay, bisexual and bi-curious men to meet other guys in the North Dallas Area in a social setting to form friendships and social connections or to just realize that they are not alone.

Our first get together was a blast! If you didn’t join us you missed out on a lot of fun. Don’t make the same mistake this time. Most of the guys who were there the first time have already told me that they will be there again. We’ll have some good food, some good drinks and most importantly — some good people to meet and have fun with.

For all the new comers, you will be able to recognize us easily.  SoonerJock will be wearing his OU ball cap and I’ll have my Texas Tech cap on. We’ve asked Rob to leave his feather boa at home this time.

If you’ve got any questions or need directions send us an e-Mail.  We’ll be looking forward to seeing you there!

Our First Get Together

January 16th, 2011  / Author: JoeBuck

The first get together has happened, and we are grateful for the turnout for the initial meet up and a fine time appeared to be had by all.

Seven of us converged from all areas of the Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex at the Razzoo’s in Plano just off the Dallas North Tollway, on the Dallas Parkway near Parker Road, on Friday evening January 14th. We all met in the bar area, and had no problem spotting one another even though most of the participants were meeting for the first time. For those of you who aren’t familiar with how it works, it’s called “gaydar” where gay men and lesbians are able to instantly recognize a fellow traveler, as it were, and know that they are in compatible company. Of course, it helped that Steve (TexasHeat) had announced he would be there in his Texas Tech cap, and Adam (SoonerJock) would have his Oklahoma cap on to assist in spotting them in the crowd. After some conversation and drinks at the bar, the group got a table where more beverages were ordered, and either snacks were shared or a meal ordered for those who hadn’t had dinner yet.

Subsequently Adam kindly invited everyone back to his nearby apartment to continue the conversation, and soon many were trying out Adam’s Xbox Connect games, which his kids are bound to have mastered, but which are quite a challenge for the rest of us. Doug’s (Joebuck) partner was out of town visiting family, so he brought their new cocker spaniel puppy, Mandy, to meet everyone rather than leave her home alone for an extended period, and though exceedingly well behaved, she patiently waiting in her car caddy to avoid any unintended mishaps in Adam’s apartment.

But all in attendance contributed to the jovial atmosphere and camaraderie developing by the newfound acquaintances, and the evening ended with everyone agreeing that the hope was to continue and expand the social network with regular future gatherings. We hope everyone reading this will consider joining us for the subsequent get-togethers which will be posted on the site and announced via e-Mail to registered members. Feel free to bring a guest if you like who you think might enjoy getting to know other friendly guys and expand the social circle, but if you come alone please know you will be welcomed as a valued part of the growing group of new found friends in a nonjudgmental and welcoming atmosphere. We are intent on facilitating helping each of your needs and desires for social networking and companionship, and we welcome any suggestions or comments about how we can best serve you wherever you live and whatever your circumstances.

Look for an announcement soon about the next meet up, and feel free to offer recommendations for a time and place in your area. We will do what we can to spread the word if you would like to host an event or plan a gathering at any appropriate venue. We appreciate your participation and look forward to meeting you sometime in the near future.

Adam, Steve  and Doug

Plano Get Together – January 14th

January 2nd, 2011  / Author: SoonerJock

We’re having our first official get together at Razzoo’s Cajun Café in Plano on the North Dallas Tollway Friday, January 14th. It’s for  gay, bisexual and bi-curious men to meet other guys in the North Dallas Area in a social setting to form friendships and social connections or to just realize that they are not alone.

Please give us an e-Mail address in order that we can contact you if there are any last minute changes and where to meet at Razoo’s. This not a sex party or an open bar – just a chance to meet other men for a conversation and friendship.

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Zazie: Un Point C’est Toi

December 24th, 2010  / Author: TexasHeat

Un Point C’est Toi is a humorous, deliciously homoerotic, not to mention beautifully filmed, music video by French singer Zazie.The video features Zazie and four other women following two men towards a lake. When they reach the water, the men strip off and dive in. Zazie then slips into a sexually charged reverie, only to have this interrupted by the gents in question locking lips themselves.

Not only that, it’s a great song.

Time to brush up on your French.

Why can’t American music artists make something this good and this interesting. What do we get? Gansta rap.

Can Military Handle a Repeal of Gay Ban?

December 20th, 2010  / Author: TexasHeat

It was in Iraq that Army Capt. Jonathan Hopkins learned he was to be promoted to the rank of major one year early – a considerable achievement.

It was also no surprise. In his career as an infantry officer, Hopkins had earned three bronze stars. As a high school student, his score on the Pentagon’s aptitude test for military service was so high that recruiters encouraged him to apply to West Point. He did, and he graduated fourth among his peers in the Class of 2001. Hopkins then deployed once to Afghanistan and twice to Iraq, where the platoon he led helped secure Kirkuk in the war’s first push.

Yet Hopkins remembers the day he received word of his potential promotion as the worst of his life: It was also the day he learned that he was being investigated for being gay.

“Don’t ask, don’t tell” had already shaped his life. The number of people he had told he was gay was “in the single digits,” and he had virtually given up dating. “What if someone asked what I did over the weekend?” he would ask himself. “There is no way to keep your job without lying or covering things up.”

Earlier this month, Defense Secretary Robert Gates and chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Adm. Mike Mullen went to Capitol Hill to “strongly urge” Congress that no member of the US military be subject to such treatment again. They called for a repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” – the 1993 law that bans openly gay men and women from serving in the military.

They do not deny that there could be problems. A survey released Nov. 30 on attitudes toward gays in the military – one of the largest surveys the Pentagon has ever conducted – found 48 percent of Army combat units and 43 percent of Marine combat troops expressed concern about gays serving openly.

But given good leadership and time to put in place a new policy, the US military stands “ready to implement the repeal,” Mr. Gates said.

Added Mullen: It is the right thing to do “for our nation, our military, and our collective honor.”

The heads of the service branches were less than sanguine about the prospect in testimony one day later, however. Army Chief of Staff Gen. George Casey said repeal would “add another level of stress to an already stretched force” and be “more difficult for the Army than the report suggests.”

Marine Corps commandant Gen. James Amos concurred. Assimilating openly gay troops into the “tightly woven fabric” of combat units could lead to “disruption” on the battlefield, he said. The service chiefs all emphasized, however, that they would implement the change if so ordered.

The confidence Gates and Mullen expressed in the military’s ability to do that lies both in the Pentagon survey results and in historical precedent. According to the survey, more than two-thirds of those in uniform do not object to gays and lesbians serving openly, Gates told the Senate Armed Services Committee Dec. 1.

Moreover, senior military officials note that the military has lifted controversial bans before. In 1948, the military integrated African-American troops, who had previously served only in segregated units often tasked with hard labor.

“The opposition to racial integration ran very high – in the 70th or 80th percentile,” noted top Pentagon lawyer Jeh Johnson in congressional testimony. By 1953, 90 percent of Army units were integrated, while buses in Montgomery, Ala., were not.

In the current case, however, the military has not led social change.

“America has moved on,” Mullen said. “America’s military is ready, by and large, to move on as well.”

A former West Point cadet who has been watching the debate with particular interest is 1st Lt. Sarah Smith, an active-duty Army engineer who requested a pseudonym to protect her identity.

During her time at the academy, she says, there was a “strong underground network” of fellow students who were also gay or lesbian. Still, she was “paranoid” about people finding out about her homosexuality. “There was a very real possibility of me losing a thing I loved.”

Smith says the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy was a frequent topic of conversation among cadets at West Point: “We all felt deep down that it would be repealed some day since it’s an incredibly discriminatory policy, but we knew there wasn’t much we could do.”

Today, after deploying to Iraq, she remains in the military, and many of her close colleagues know about her homosexuality. This includes senior noncommissioned officers in her unit, as well as a first sergeant whose family frequently invites Smith and her girlfriend to dinner.

“They have completely embraced me,” she says. “When the policy would require them to report me, they put themselves and their career on the line.”

Hopkins says he found similar behavior among his colleagues once they learned he was being investigated for being gay. In fact, many knew about his homosexuality before he fully acknowledged it to himself, he adds.

While had early inklings he might be gay, under the rules of “don’t ask, don’t tell” being gay “just didn’t mesh” with the Army life that he loved.

“Basically, the way I viewed it was that I had pretty high expectations for myself, and if I wanted to do that, I had to be straight,” Hopkins says.

What mattered most to Hopkins’s colleagues, he says, was that he did his job well. In the course of the 14-month investigation into his sexuality, he heard from “a bunch of old infantry soldiers” who he served with as a company commander in Iraq. “They reached out and said, ‘Hey, we figured you were gay, but you were the best company commander we ever had.’”

This view was borne out by the Pentagon survey, Gates and Mullen suggest. Ninety-two percent of respondents said that once they worked with someone they believed was gay, the unit’s ability to work together remained “very good, good, or neither good nor poor.”

And even if there are pockets of resistance, they add, it is not wise policy to give troops veto power over top-level decisions, such as unit integration or going to war. Sen. John McCain (R) of Arizona has disagreed. He has said he doesn’t doubt that “this capable, professional force could implement a repeal of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ if ordered to.” The question, he said, is whether that is a good idea.

To some supporters of a repeal, the greater question is how many quality troops the military is losing.

Hopkins, for his part, was asked earlier this year to leave the military. Now a graduate student at Georgetown University, he received a call last month from a former battalion commander of his, asking him to return. But he has mixed feelings, comparing the Army investigation to “a 14-month-long divorce.”

“The Army was what I chose over relationships,” he says. “And it comes with all of the emotional baggage and pain that a 14-month divorce would engender.”